In quiet gratitude, I reflect on the fact that a few years ago, I was severely anemic for almost six years due to having seven large fibroid tumors lodged in my uterine wall. As a result, the craving for ice was unreal. After a significant amount of time passed I had several places earmarked for the perfect type of ice that I could easily crunch. Any time the desire hit me a green light would appear in my mind and I began to plan my next ice-capade. My most frequented spots were, Zaxby’s, Krispy Kreme, Publix, and Chick-Fil-A. Years after surgery, I am proud to say I am free of my addiction to ice, low energy, fibroid tumors, happily married to the man of my dreams and enjoying a strong body full of life-giving blood and vitality.
I have experienced countless battles with my health and several were a byproduct of my own poor choices. Until you get sick and tired of being sick and tired your life is bound to remain the same. Success is the repetition of best practices and the elimination of bad habits. In order to ascend, you must prepare not only to fight but to win!
What is a craving? According to Merriam Webster dictionary, it is an intense, urgent, powerful and abnormal desire for something. There is nothing wrong with having a strong desire, the problem comes when we pursue unhealthy longings that often result in an unfavorable outcome.
Let me give you a primary example, if you are desiring to obtain a flat stomach yet most of your diet is laden with non-nutritional processed food items and your lifestyle is void of physical fitness the probability of attaining that goal is slim to none. That is unless you have a secret magic wand tucked away in the center of your Michael Kors purse.
Allow me to walk you through an easy to follow 4 step success plan to crush any addiction you may be wrestling with. You may have to go to battle more than once in order to win the war.
Step 1: Understand what’s fueling the craving.
In order to crush your cravings, it is vital that you first assess your current beliefs and strong emotions surrounding the unwanted craving. We can start with a simple one such as caffeine. Why do you feel you need to have coffee six times a day? There could be several reasons you may justify within your mind’s eye:
- Due to high demands and exhaustion, it boosts your energy.
- It helps you think clearly without missing a beat.
- You can’t live without the smell of it, the feel of it and the thrill of it.
- You wholeheartedly believe the best part of waking up is having Folgers in your cup.
Step 2: Alter your belief.
In order to change your behavior you must intentionally alter your belief. Now that you have identified your motivation behind desiring caffeinated food or drink substances it is easy to establish a new thought pattern.
- I obtain an incredible boost in energy when I exercise at the start of each new day.
- Having a well-balanced diet packed with clarity foods is what keeps my mind razor-sharp.
- I live free from every unhealthy and life-shortening craving.
- Every morning, as I open my eyes my body feels completely rejuvenated.
Step 3: Amplify your Aspirations!
Once you have a new lifestyle vision it will require constant reinforcement. I recently completed my seventeenth vision board and fifth vision book because I am serious about my subconscious thoughts being in agreement with my conscious thoughts. Total alignment in mind, body, and soul are paramount in order to achieve your desired goals.
Everywhere you find your eyes roaming there should be positive reinforcements to empower you to remain committed to the change you are creating. One way to reinforce your new way of living is to discover caffeine-free communities who will support you on your journey of fresh water, fresh food, and fresh focus.
I recently read the Success Formula by Bob Burg, who shared the law of diminishing intent which states, “The longer you wait to do something you know you should do now, the greater the chances are that you’ll never actually do it.”
Step 4: Take accelerated action.
You have delayed your transformation long enough. It is time to put some fire under your own feet. You must inspire yourself to do something radically different today than you did yesterday. Listen, casual efforts will produce casual results and extreme efforts will produce extreme results. Most people stop before they even start.
Let’s look at eight simple success strategies to crush your cravings instantaneously:
- Begin with the end in mind and make it happen now. Write out the specific change you expect to see in the next 24 hours, 7 days, 2 weeks or 1 month from today’s date.
- Design a vision board, vision book or vision statement centered on your expected accomplishment.
- Purchase an accountability journal to log daily thoughts and milestones achieved.
- Establish your own personal support system and surround yourself with positive people who believe in you.
- Create short reminder messages of why this new change is important on a 3×5 or 6×9 card to carry with you during moments of weakness.
- Pre-Record audio words of inspiration to yourself to hear every day to reinforce your new lifestyle goals.
- Eliminate all traces of unhealthy food or drinks in your home and replace with healthy alternatives that are reflective of your new desires.
- Celebrate each accomplishment big or small and reward yourself with a smiley face on a dry erase calendar placed on your refrigerator to witness personal progress.
You possess the power to create massive momentum in minutes and it is all a matter of willingness to change your life for the better! Always remember, small steps create BIG RESULTS!
Can you REIGN in the RAIN? Any queen can LOOK FANCY. The real question is can she smile consistently in the face of adversity, LEAD FAITHFULLY, and FIGHT FIERCELY in the furnace of affliction until she kisses the lips of ascension?
“I will do what queens do, I will rule.” -Daenerys Targaryen
As a leader I have to constantly reiterate to my insecurities that I was not called to EASY, I was summoned to EXTRAORDINARY. When I was younger I almost placed my fate in the hands of the state by allowing a standardized test to say I was less than great. YOU’VE GOT TO GO THROUGH, TO GET TO THE NEXT LEVEL! New altitudes are commanding you to soar higher.
“Life is not easy for any of us but what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing at whatever cost must be attained.” -Marie Curie
In March of 2014, I found myself in a new matrix of greatness when I was abruptly terminated. I am no stranger to challenges and I knew that I was going to have to find out who I had yet to become. I was re-introduced to my divine power and transformed a pink slip into Queenfidence. I would love to tell you that it has been a walk in the royal garden yet the highs have outshined the lows.
How do I continue to tread forward when I’m surrounded by a forest of uncertainty? MY VISION WON’T LET ME VANISH! In the words of Cleopatra the great, “I WILL NOT BE TRIUMPHED OVER!” I was not created to SUCCUMB to fear but designed to SUBDUE my future.
“The first step in gaining fortitude is to ask yourself, “What do I value most? What do I fear losing the most? The brave person values the thing he is pursuing more than the things he is risking.” -Unknown
If I could capsulize one main jewel I have embraced on this journey is, Do not be afraid of who you are because no one is you and that is your power. Focus on where you are going, not where you have been.
“No amount of security is worth the suffering of a mediocre life chained to a routine that has killed your dreams.” -Maya Mendoza
The voice of brilliance began to advocate for me even when I failed to believe. Faux societal labels serve one goal, to disable your growth. One of my saving graces throughout the years since childhood is understanding that IMAGINATION is the gateway to ELEVATION.
“Fight for the fairytale it does exist.” -Joy F.
We house infinite potential in the crevices of our beings. Our innate abilities are often buried under the debris of disappointment, despair and delayed dreams. The mind is a highly sophisticated instrument that will perform magnificently in the face of adversity. In order for us to operate at optimal capacity, we must retrain the brain to reign exponentially.
“If you have the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed.” -David Viscott
I am always seeking to find the open door where there are only walls. In tech a gateway is defined as a network node that connects two networks using different protocols together. A bridge is used to join two similar types of networks. A gateway uses two dissimilar networks. This is how I interpret it for real life: adversity + opportunity = the perfect partners to produce uncommon feats. Adversity holds the key to limitless possibilities but you must open your eyes and seize.
“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask, ACT. Action will delineate and define you.” -Thomas Jefferson
A gateway also means a tall and wide entrance which you have to go through to get to another place. It would be quite refreshing if we could swim through cool waters to DESTINY but the reality is, fire awaits.
“What is courage? Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.” -Unknown
Use your voice even if it shakes, the future is at stake. Your brilliance is unquestionable, co-sign your own purpose, power and potential.
“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” -Nora Ephron
The secret to success is hidden in our daily routine which consists of powerful habits that create favorable outcomes. In the simple words of Emerson, “Do the thing and you will have the power.”
Beat the Sun!
We often overlook the power of ending our day early. Our physical body goes into its most regenerative state between 10:00 p.m. and 2:00 a.m. A lack of proper rest can create medical problems such as obesity, fatigue, hypertension, premature ageing, poor memory in the long run. Having the proper amount of rest allows you awaken revitalized and ready for limitless opportunities.
Top salesman have learned to detach from yesterday and approach each new day as a clean slate to surpass goals. They live in a constant Carpe Diem mindset, in order to seize the day! The sales industry requires thick skin, unshakable confidence and internal resilience. The objective is the BEAT THE SUN and get plenty of work completed before the day is done!
Peak performers know the value of staying hydrated and immediately kicking their metabolism into high gear. One of the first things health-conscious performers reach for is a bottle of water and a bowl of fruit. The key benefits of water are energy, brain alertness, toxin elimination and headache prevention. This is a high-impact profession and you need to operate at optimum capacity for extended periods of time. There are over 180 million individuals who begin their day with coffee. We were raised to the melody, “The best part of waking up is Folgers in your cup.” The long-term side effects of caffeine are insomnia, nervousness and restlessness.
Elevate to Great!
The sales industry is full of twists and turns which can be highly stressful to the individual who has not invested quality time in nurturing their mind. Sales leaders are readers. The best sales performers focus daily on mastering the inner game. This would be a great time to do meditational work such as affirmations, review your vision board, journal writing, audio or video motivation. Succeeding begins with BELIEVING. Starting the day off with positive reinforcement places you in the best mental position to crush your goals for the day. One of the greatest attributes a salesperson possesses is OPTIMISM.
Move Your Body!
The sales rock star understands they are fully responsible for their own results. One of the best ways to skyrocket your energy in the morning is to incorporate physical fitness. This will allow you to be more active all day long, consume less calories and decrease blood pressure. The sales leader who stands apart from the masses of mediocre knows the power of aesthetics. Look the part, be the part and get the part. Research shows that 10 minutes of stretching can boost your mood instantly. Think of exercise as the gift that keeps on giving back to you. Your fitness regimen can be as easy as a walk in the neighborhood to get your blood circulating or watching a fitness video in your living room. Either you find an excuse or decide to execute.
Plan to Win!
The old adage still rings true, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” Victory loves preparation and you must believe that you are too big to fail. Top sales leaders prepare a concise plan of action to follow through in order to hit the bullseye. They are focused on closing a set amount of sales for the day and that means being ready for every objection thrown their way. A winning attitude is essential to being a leader in the sales industry. Zig Ziglar once stated, “You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.”
Lastly, on your way to the top remember the words of Brian Tracey “Get in line and stay in line.” Our lives are just like a buffet which requires self-service. Decide what you want and take full responsibility for your choices. If you persevere and willingly pay the price eventually you will reach the pinnacle of your potential.