Lifting Heavy Things

When you think about healing from emotional trauma, do you picture Olympic-style weightlifters, loud clanking barbells weighing hundreds of pounds, or even that dusty pair of dumbbells tucked away in your closet?

 You should, says a respected trauma practitioner and pioneer.

In an era defined by trauma—from #MeToo to COVID to social injustice—survivors often turn to “branded for healing” fitness modalities like yoga. But these approaches can trigger survivors. What may be the answer? Trauma-informed strength training, which benefits not only your heart, muscles, bones, posture, and balance but also your feelings of self-confidence, self-efficacy, and physical safety. And that’s empowering.

 A celebrated personal trainer, trauma practitioner, and educator, LAURA KHOUDARI reveals this new approach to healing in her debut book, Lifting Heavy Things: Healing Trauma One Rep at a Time (LifeTree Media; May 25, 2021).

 She is standing by to share: 

  • 3 practical tools that will allow you to feel safe in your body 
  • Easy ways to establish a trauma-sensitive, home-based strength training practice.
  • How to quickly identity—and recover from—triggering movements and moments. 

About our special guest:

LAURA KHOUDARI is a trauma practitioner, certified personal trainer, and corrective exercise specialist. Widely recognized within the trauma and fitness communities, her work has been featured in Buzzfeed, UpWorthy, Outside Online, Medium, Tonic, and Girls Gone Strong. She is the author of Lifting Heavy Things: Healing Trauma One Rep at a Time. 

To contact the host visit www.queenfidence.com

Please Don’t Jump!

The month of April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) We are honored to hear the soul-wrenching triumphant story of Deloris E. Jordan. She is the sister of legendary NBA superstar Michael Jordan.

In her words, ” Ending eight years after it first began and five years after losing my virginity to my father, it scares me to think how much longer the abuse would have went on had I not spit out the dreadful truth to my mother during one of our many heated disagreements. Disagreements that were sometimes anything but pleasant and often featured no indication of love between the two of us.

So as she ranted and raved about how no slutty daughter of hers better get pregnant and bring any bastard children into her house. I finally heard myself saying: “If I am so much of a slut, why don’t you keep your husband out of my bed?”

When I finally found the courage to let my father’s deeds tumble from my lips, I did not know what to expect, but I never in a million years would have guessed that my mother would turn on me. Her words of betrayals did far more damage to me than my father’s deeds. They spoke volumes to the fact that she really did not care about me, which my father obviously knew. It is because she was so expressive with her dislike for me that probably made my father know he could get away with violating me.

My father confessed his actions on the same day that I disclosed them to my mother. And on that frightful day of admission, I watched my mother, looking for a sign, any sign that she cared about me.

The memory of my father whispering in my ear during the wee hours of the night about the beauty of my body has played over and over in my head for many years. And as if that has not been incapacitating enough by itself, having to comprehend the fact that more often than not, he had just gotten out of the bed he shared with my mother to find his way to my bedroom has just added to the realization of the painful situation. ” Book excerpt: In My Family’s Shadow.

She has a new book entitled You are Stronger than Your Situation: Please Don’t Jump available at www.delorisejordan.com

Statistics from RAINN, the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization:

  • Every 73 seconds another American is sexually assaulted.
  • Every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison.
  • 1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed, 2.8% attempted).4
  • About 3% of American men—or 1 in 33—have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.4
  • From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.5
  • A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17.6

The Majority of Sexual Assaults Occur At or Near the Victim’s Home

What was the survivor doing when the crime occurred?7

  • 48% were sleeping or performing another activity at home
  • 29% were traveling to and from work or school or traveling to shop or run errands
  • 12% were working
  • 7% were attending school
  • 5% were doing an unknown or other activity

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The Art of Mindfulness

As the 24/7 news cycle brings increasingly alarming updates regarding the Coronavirus, and people are having to isolate themselves from others, fear and anxiety are ratcheting up to dangerous levels. A crisis text line has experienced a surge in contacts, illustrating extreme rates of anxiety people are experiencing.

We need to lighten the stress from living in this heightened state of fear. Practicing Mindfulness can provide the calming effect we’re so urgently in need of. Mindfulness enables us to navigate through our fear in ways that can help us stay calm and centered. 

 Our special guest, Ora Nadrich is the founder and president of the Institute for Transformational Thinking and author of Live True: A Mindfulness Guide to Authenticity, named in the 100 Best Mindfulness Books of All Time by BookAuthority. She is a certified life coach and mindfulness teacher, specializing in transformational thinking, self-discovery and mentoring new coaches as they develop their careers. Contact her at theiftt.org.

In today’s episode Ora shares several Mindfulness practices to help us navigate through these unprecedented times, including:

  • How to stay rooted in the present and not let ourselves indulge in thoughts like, “The world is coming to an end”.
  • Why it’s important to take a hiatus from the news and go about our normal routines.
  • How to take mental health breaks by going out for walks and taking warm baths.
  • How to center ourselves through meditation and focusing on the breath.

Thank you for listening and being a part of the Queenfidence Lifestyle Community. Contact us at www.queenfidence.com

Leading with Learning

In our special Fortified Feminity interview, we discuss Leading with Learning with Lisa J. Koss, Global leadership and Organizational Change Expert.

Lisa J. Koss, the co-founder, and a partner at Ontos Global. She has 25 years of experience in global leadership, team development, talent management, executive coaching, and design and organizational change initiatives. Her clients include Kaiser Permanente, ITT, Xylem, British Petroleum, Honeywell, Hewlett Packard, General Electric, Ernst & Young. Her new book is Leading for Learning: How Managers Can Get Business Results through Developmental Coaching and Inspire Deep Employee Commitment. Learn more at ontosglobal.com/team/lisa-koss.

To contact the host Kristie Kennedy email [email protected] or visit our website www.queenfidence.com/reign

Alleviate Anxiety with Immediate Action

In the time that we are living in more individuals are experiencing anxiety as a result of the vast ambiguity we are experiencing collectively. In today’s episode, I will walk you through simple steps to keep moving forward in spite of discomfort.

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Passion for Progressive Movement

There are five mental prisons that impede your progress and you hold the power to unlock the door with radical resilience and bodacious belief.

Together we will explore the mindsets that are crippling your confidence.

1) Procrastination

2) People Pleasing

3) Past Performance

4) Persecution

5) Perfectionism

You are here on earth to make an impact! Do not let anything hold you back! www.queenfidence.com

The Power of Preparation

In today’s motivational moment with Kristie Kennedy, Image Confidence Expert and prepare to receive simple success strategies to create boundless energy.

Is it time to unwind from the grind? Where does self-care fit on your to-do list? You were born to thrive not just live as if you are about to die.

Small changes can create a massive impact. Sit back, relax and let’s chat.

www.queenfidence.com “Wellness is Wealth and Life is Limitless!”

Passion for Purpose

Don’t let the problems of life INTIMIDATE you, let them INVIGORATE you.

If you don’t strangle your struggles, your struggles will strangle you. It’s time to shut your pity party down. Step back into your power and show this world what bodacious warriors are made of! Don’t cry about it, be about it! Let’s go!

“At the intersection where your gifts, talents and abilities meet a human need; therein you will discover purpose.”~Aristotle

Is your life moving in the direction of your deepest dreams? We often discount the many miles we’ve traveled. We overlook the vast amount of wisdom gained from each step we have courageously chosen to take. We dim our brilliance to accommodate the insecurity of others. We remain silent when the roar of our heart is fighting to break out. We hide in the shadows of obscurity to avoid the arrows of notoriety. We create fake lives because to deal with the real requires humility to heal.

What are excuses? Other than lame. They are merely limiting beliefs that convince us to remain the same, to avoid change, to live encaged and do absolutely nothing.

They cause us to forfeit our receipts to destiny and miss the sound of our own beat, leaving us feeling deprived and empty as a seat. As we kiss the face of misery until it starts killing us softly. In order to break free from the chains of insecurity and ascend into the heights of heaven allowing bodacious belief to become the wind beneath our wings.

I enjoyed Super Soul Sunday with Oprah interviewing Pastor A.R. Bernard. He left a 10 year banking career to follow Jesus. In his words, “Purpose is not static, it is dynamic.”

She asked him a question, “What has been the lesson its taken the longest to learn?” Pause and calmly think about that.

I spend at least five days a week empowering men and women to believe beyond what they can see.

It all began with the power of my imagination. Instead of asking, “What’s wrong?” Start exploring the question, “What do I really want?”

REFUSE to allow pain to rain on your parade. Stand in the beauty of your own light, celebrate every milestone and focus on what’s going right.

“Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.”~Samuel Johnson

The Powerhouse Mindset

In today’s episode we explore the power of your mindset. You possess the ability to create the life of your dreams. Visualization can shift you from living stuck to unstoppable.

Learn the power of affirmations and my private practice of building an invincible mindset to overcome insurmountable obstacles.

I will take you behind the scenes and reveal the latest discovery on my nature trail walk. You can learn a lot from a turtle.

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Audaciously Yours,

Kristie Kennedy

Image Confidence Empowerment Expert

I Will Not Stop!

It’s Massive Momentum Monday where we get it done and have tons of fun!

In my quiet time of reflection this morning, I said I cannot subscribe to the narrative that it’s hard. I’ve learned you can’t abort what God has purposed to LIVE. From this day forward, I choose to say it’s HEART work. I am willing to bleed and weep for my deepest dreams. There is no foe strong enough to make me abandon the light of hope.

I was reading Quiet Women Never Made History by Patty Grimm and her research showed that children hear 28 negative statements to 1 and adults hear double the amount. I am determined to be the one affirmative voice they might ever hear.

On today, remember “You can’t give away what you do not own.” ~Bobby Gee

Keep turning the pages, the plot is about to thicken and become extremely juicy. Can you taste it? Can you feel it? Can you hear it? Can you see it? Can you touch it? I can.

Queenfidence ®️”She believed she could and so she did!”

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