In this episode, learn how to communicate inside and out with calm, confidence, and self-love no matter the circumstances.
Presenters and performers aren’t the only ones who need calm and confidence in their everyday lives. After all, confidence is the fuel that drives us toward our ambitions, and calm eases the way. And when the two states combine, they form a magical and powerful combination.
After years of struggling with communication in school, business, and public, Patricia Stark achieved this state of “Calmfidence” not through some single moment of revelation but through years of small insights, “aha” moments, and constant practice. Today, after helping thousands of students and clients find their own voices and abilities, Stark makes her methods available in Calmfidence—a comprehensive guide to improving communication skills in any social interaction.
Calmfidence gathers a unique set of mental tools and experiential practices for quelling the self-sabotaging habits of the Inner Critic. With warmth and compassion, Stark guides you in how to identify and overcome your blockages to communication, how to react skillfully to strong emotions as they arise, and how to deal with setbacks in your Calmfidence journey without self-judgment.
You don’t need some rare talent to communicate well. When you engage with the exercises and encouragement in Calmfidence, you’ll learn how to stop surrendering to fear and become the calm and confident communicator who has always been waiting within.
About our special guest:
Based in New York & New Jersey, Patricia Stark Communications is a personal and professional development training company working with entrepreneurs, corporate executives, training & development professionals, celebrities, authors, news anchors, TV show hosts, influencers, and others whose careers and goals rely on their ability to communicate with calm and confidence- Calmfidence®. PSC is honored to have coached and trained 1000’s of clients from around the country and around the globe including New Zealand, Egypt, Dubai, Australia, England, Japan, Saudi Arabia, Denmark, and Ireland.
Patricia Stark is a Certified Personal & Executive Coach (CPEC of the CaPP Institute -Coaching & Positive Psychology) & a Certified Body Language Trainer (Body Language Institute Washington DC) and holds certificates in Eclectic Cognitive Behavior Therapy & Visualization/Guided Imagery (LIU). She heads Patricia Stark Communications and specializes in helping clients build their Calmfidence® in interviews, on-camera, and in daily life with tangible strategies for powerful communication skills, mastering self-talk, and stress & anxiety relievers used by the pros.
Patricia has extensive experience as a health & medical news anchor, radio interview host, and appears regularly as a TV guest expert on the topics of communication and confidence. Her new book “Calmfidence: How to Trust Yourself, Tame Your Inner Critic, and Shine in Any Spotlight” is set to be published in September 2021 by Sounds True/MacMillan Publishing.
With over 20 years of first-hand experience in front of the camera and on stage, Patricia is one of the few trainers in the country who has worked extensively in front of the camera in both broadcast and corporate media. Patricia has appeared in over 2000 Fortune 500 corporate media productions in just about every sector of industry as a moderator, trainer, host, and corporate spokesperson, and has anchored national and international news. She is a member of SAG/AFTRA and has appeared in numerous television commercials and programs and held a recurring role on Law & Order: Criminal Intent.
Visit her online at:
www.PatriciaStark.com or www.CalmfidenceBook.com
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Today’s Fortified Female Leader is Jill McAbe who is a best selling author and celebrated coach in business success, strategic planning, finding purpose, and the science of high performance and change. As a lifelong service-based entrepreneur and student of social science, Jill has dedicated her career to the science of turning dreams into reality.
Jill’s best-selling book, It’s Go Time, helps professionals, creatives, and expertise-based entreprenuers who are tired of feeling undervalued learn how to start and scale businesses that make them feel alive and inspired.
Lacking an understanding of how to choose projects and execute on shorter timelines, many business owners struggle–sometimes for years–to make their businesses work. With It’s Go Time, you’ll learn everything you need to build a business that works. Your reward will be renewed motivation, unstoppable productivity, and a clear path to the business and life you want.
Most business models are for tech, product, large firms/agencies, startups, or for people who love the hustle. It’s Go Time introduces a methodical system for building a business that is aligned with sharing one’s gifts, finding life’s purpose, and making great and consistent money.
McAbe created the Expertise-Based Business Model and wrote It’s Go Time to help people who have not previously had a place to turn. Within, she identifies how to remove subconscious blocks in order to build a great business. McAbe’s timing is prescient. The COVID-19 pandemic has taught everyone that they need to seize every opportunity to realize their dreams. It’s Go Time charts a course for how to do exactly that.
Jill is gifting a complimentary PDF copy of It’s Go time to our Queenfidence Lifestyle community at www.jillmcabe.com/queenfidence
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Sometimes it takes a catastrophic event to wake us up. We’re diagnosed with a life-changing illness, end a long-term relationship, unexpectedly get laid off, or face an event that utterly upends life as we know it (COVID-19, anyone?). These turning points can be terrifying. Yet, we all encounter them in our lives. The real question is: how will we face them?
The so-what: Despite our knee-jerk reaction to hang on to what’s “normal,” disruptive moments are exactly what’s needed to transform ourselves and the world around us, urges recognized leadership and personal development expert RADHA RUPARELL.
And she should know it. In Brave Now: Rise Through Struggle and Unlock Your Greatest Self (March 19, 2021), Ruparell shares the battle of her lifetime—a brush with death from a deadly virus we know all too well—and how she pulled from two decades of professional experience to overcome its challenges.
Radha Ruparell, a global cross-sector leader with expertise in leadership development and personal transformation. She has worked with CEOs, Fortune 500 senior executives, social entrepreneurs, and grassroots leaders around the world and heads the Collective Leadership Accelerator at Teach For All, a global network of independent organizations in 60 countries committed to developing leadership in classrooms and communities to ensure all children fulfill their potential. She holds a dual master’s degree from Harvard University and is the author of the Amazon top seller Brave Now: Rise Through Struggle and Unlock Your Greatest Self (March 19, 2021). Learn more at bravenowbook.com.
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For women who’ve learned to be their own worst enemies, this in-your-face guide offers powerful tools to break free from the cultural messages that feed negative body image and stand in the way of women becoming their most authentic and radiant selves.
In a society overwhelmed with messages of how women should be and appear, it’s easy for them to internalize these ideas and become their own harshest critics. It’s time for a change. It’s time to stop squashing women into painfully tight “should-be” boxes and celebrate their bodies for what they are—divine tools to reach our highest aspirations and experience the full fabulousness of life.
Erica Mather is a lifelong teacher who has struggled with emotional overeating, compulsive over exercising, and body dysmorphic disorder. As an embodiment educator, she guides people to feel better in, and about, their bodies. Her Adore Your Body Transformational Programs help overcome body image challenges, and The Yoga Clinic of New York City helps students, teachers, and health professionals to learn about empowered self-care for the body. Mather is a recognized body image expert, a Forrest Yoga lineage-holder, and was also named one of the next generation’s important yoga teachers by Yoga Journal. She writes for mindbodygreen on the topic of body image challenges, is a regular columnist for Rivertown Magazine, and is a popular repeat interview on the SoulFeed Podcast, Hay House Radio’s Angel Club, and many more. Mather lives in New York City, NY. Visit her at www.ericamather.com
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There is a gap between where most individuals are now and what they believe they are truly capable of. Most of the time that gap is HUGE. Our special guest Diane Allen pulls back the curtains and brings us on the stage to step into the flow state.
Who is Diane Allen? In her own words, “I spent years training to become a professional violinist. Feeling bulletproof with my New York City violin training, I was completely caught off guard when my nerves would get the better part of me during auditions. Unable to show my high skill level under high pressure, I struggled to get work.
After 10 years of trial and error, I found that when I got into the music and into my flow state, my nerves would go away, I’d achieve personal bests daily, and I tapped into the energy of influence. So I made getting into flow a repeatable process.
As a result, I became the concertmaster (lead violinist) of the Central Oregon Symphony for 15 years.
With my Copper Dragon Violin in hand, I now deliver keynote performances that combine music, visuals, psychology, and neuroscience along with the specific steps to deeply engage, refuel, tap into creativity, and become fully utilized. Through my proprietary three-step system audience members learn to access the peak performance that already exists within them, make it a repeatable process, and discover how to exude their influential energy and lead.”
Visit her online at www.dianeallenspeaker.com
Not only are we living in an era of particularly high anxiety, but according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, anxiety-related disorders are the most common mental illness in the United States, affecting more than 40 million adults aged 18 and older. And anxiety disorders also affect more than 25 percent of teenagers ages 13 to 18. Robbins’ story offers hope and inspiration to individuals trapped by anxiety disorders.
Food for Thought:
- Anxiety is a self-imposed prison with walls that close in overtime.
- Avoiding triggers that provoke panic attacks is not a cure for anxiety, but an imperfect anxiety-management strategy.
- It is possible to free oneself from the prison of anxiety through self-compassion and the hard work of introspection.
About our special guest: Wendy Tamis Robbins, author of The Box: An Invitation to Freedom from Anxiety, is a lawyer by day, writer by night, and a “professional panic attacker.” Despite near-crippling anxiety, she worked her way through Dartmouth College and law school before, in her 30s, she set her mind to overcoming the anxiety and panic attacks that increasingly limited her life.
Wendy Tamis Robbins’ anxiety, obsessive-compulsive and panic disorders started when she was a young child growing up in a volatile household. Anxiety controlled her life well into adulthood, to the point of agoraphobia. Though she dabbled in treatment from time to time, it took many years and an unsuccessful marriage before she finally took hold of her mental health and, through introspection, meditation, re-parenting, and self-administered exposure therapy, escaped from her self-inflicted prison.
For the past 20 years, she has worked in corporate finance, creating and preserving affordable housing and lending to underserved communities. Learn more at www.WendyTamisRobbins.com.
Contact the host Kristie Kennedy at www.queenfidence.com
When you think about healing from emotional trauma, do you picture Olympic-style weightlifters, loud clanking barbells weighing hundreds of pounds, or even that dusty pair of dumbbells tucked away in your closet?
You should, says a respected trauma practitioner and pioneer.
In an era defined by trauma—from #MeToo to COVID to social injustice—survivors often turn to “branded for healing” fitness modalities like yoga. But these approaches can trigger survivors. What may be the answer? Trauma-informed strength training, which benefits not only your heart, muscles, bones, posture, and balance but also your feelings of self-confidence, self-efficacy, and physical safety. And that’s empowering.
A celebrated personal trainer, trauma practitioner, and educator, LAURA KHOUDARI reveals this new approach to healing in her debut book, Lifting Heavy Things: Healing Trauma One Rep at a Time (LifeTree Media; May 25, 2021).
She is standing by to share:
- 3 practical tools that will allow you to feel safe in your body
- Easy ways to establish a trauma-sensitive, home-based strength training practice.
- How to quickly identity—and recover from—triggering movements and moments.
About our special guest:
LAURA KHOUDARI is a trauma practitioner, certified personal trainer, and corrective exercise specialist. Widely recognized within the trauma and fitness communities, her work has been featured in Buzzfeed, UpWorthy, Outside Online, Medium, Tonic, and Girls Gone Strong. She is the author of Lifting Heavy Things: Healing Trauma One Rep at a Time.
To contact the host visit www.queenfidence.com
The month of April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) We are honored to hear the soul-wrenching triumphant story of Deloris E. Jordan. She is the sister of legendary NBA superstar Michael Jordan.
In her words, ” Ending eight years after it first began and five years after losing my virginity to my father, it scares me to think how much longer the abuse would have went on had I not spit out the dreadful truth to my mother during one of our many heated disagreements. Disagreements that were sometimes anything but pleasant and often featured no indication of love between the two of us.
So as she ranted and raved about how no slutty daughter of hers better get pregnant and bring any bastard children into her house. I finally heard myself saying: “If I am so much of a slut, why don’t you keep your husband out of my bed?”
When I finally found the courage to let my father’s deeds tumble from my lips, I did not know what to expect, but I never in a million years would have guessed that my mother would turn on me. Her words of betrayals did far more damage to me than my father’s deeds. They spoke volumes to the fact that she really did not care about me, which my father obviously knew. It is because she was so expressive with her dislike for me that probably made my father know he could get away with violating me.
My father confessed his actions on the same day that I disclosed them to my mother. And on that frightful day of admission, I watched my mother, looking for a sign, any sign that she cared about me.
The memory of my father whispering in my ear during the wee hours of the night about the beauty of my body has played over and over in my head for many years. And as if that has not been incapacitating enough by itself, having to comprehend the fact that more often than not, he had just gotten out of the bed he shared with my mother to find his way to my bedroom has just added to the realization of the painful situation. ” Book excerpt: In My Family’s Shadow.
She has a new book entitled You are Stronger than Your Situation: Please Don’t Jump available at www.delorisejordan.com
Statistics from RAINN, the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization:
- Every 73 seconds another American is sexually assaulted.
- Every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison.
- 1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed, 2.8% attempted).4
- About 3% of American men—or 1 in 33—have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.4
- From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.5
- A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17.6
The Majority of Sexual Assaults Occur At or Near the Victim’s Home
What was the survivor doing when the crime occurred?7
- 48% were sleeping or performing another activity at home
- 29% were traveling to and from work or school or traveling to shop or run errands
- 12% were working
- 7% were attending school
- 5% were doing an unknown or other activity
To reach the host Kristie Kennedy visit www.queenfidence.com
As the 24/7 news cycle brings increasingly alarming updates regarding the Coronavirus, and people are having to isolate themselves from others, fear and anxiety are ratcheting up to dangerous levels. A crisis text line has experienced a surge in contacts, illustrating extreme rates of anxiety people are experiencing.
We need to lighten the stress from living in this heightened state of fear. Practicing Mindfulness can provide the calming effect we’re so urgently in need of. Mindfulness enables us to navigate through our fear in ways that can help us stay calm and centered.
Our special guest, Ora Nadrich is the founder and president of the Institute for Transformational Thinking and author of Live True: A Mindfulness Guide to Authenticity, named in the 100 Best Mindfulness Books of All Time by BookAuthority. She is a certified life coach and mindfulness teacher, specializing in transformational thinking, self-discovery and mentoring new coaches as they develop their careers. Contact her at theiftt.org.
In today’s episode Ora shares several Mindfulness practices to help us navigate through these unprecedented times, including:
- How to stay rooted in the present and not let ourselves indulge in thoughts like, “The world is coming to an end”.
- Why it’s important to take a hiatus from the news and go about our normal routines.
- How to take mental health breaks by going out for walks and taking warm baths.
- How to center ourselves through meditation and focusing on the breath.
Thank you for listening and being a part of the Queenfidence Lifestyle Community. Contact us at www.queenfidence.com
In our special Fortified Feminity interview, we discuss Leading with Learning with Lisa J. Koss, Global leadership and Organizational Change Expert.
Lisa J. Koss, the co-founder, and a partner at Ontos Global. She has 25 years of experience in global leadership, team development, talent management, executive coaching, and design and organizational change initiatives. Her clients include Kaiser Permanente, ITT, Xylem, British Petroleum, Honeywell, Hewlett Packard, General Electric, Ernst & Young. Her new book is Leading for Learning: How Managers Can Get Business Results through Developmental Coaching and Inspire Deep Employee Commitment. Learn more at ontosglobal.com/team/lisa-koss.
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